Do You Believe in Rewards or Incentives for Good Behaviour?

Do You Believe in Rewards or Incentives for Good Behaviour?

When it comes to parenting, few topics spark as much debate as how to encourage good behaviour in children. One question many parents ask is: Should kids be rewarded for doing the right thing?

Some parents strongly believe in using rewards or incentives—like stickers, treats, or small prizes—as a way to reinforce positive behaviour. 

Systems like reward charts can help children stay motivated, build routines, and understand expectations in a clear and consistent way.

Others take a different approach. They worry that offering rewards may teach children to expect something in return for behaviours they should naturally develop, like kindness, responsibility, or listening. Instead, they focus on praise, natural consequences, and building intrinsic motivation.

For many families, the reality falls somewhere in between. Rewards might be used occasionally—for big milestones like potty training or transitioning to a new routine—while everyday good behaviour is encouraged through consistency and communication.

There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Every child is different, and what works for one family may not work for another.

So what do you think? Do rewards and incentives help shape good behaviour—or do they do more harm than good?